Adulting 101: Books to Get You Started on Behaving Like an Adult

9 Dec

Whether it was when you moved out of your parents’ house or when you graduated college and started looking for your first job, at some point we all have that thought that we’re a grown up now.  Adulting doesn’t have to be filled with existential dread.  Here are a few books that will help you with everything from financial planning to finding the one.

What Your Financial Advisor Isn’t Telling You: The 10 Essential Truths You Need to Know About Your Money, by Liz Davidson

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Confused how to handle personal finances beyond balancing your check book? Then check out Liz Davidson’s What Your Financial Advisor Isn’t Telling You from HPL.  Financial advisor Davidson helps with how to find a trustworthy advisor and cut through some of the jargon surrounding the field.  She also looks at topics like paying off debts, the advantage of different types of employment benefits, and investing mutual funds.  You might also want to borrow from BCCLS Libraries, The Index Card: Why Personal Finance Doesn’t Have to be Complicated by Helaine Olen and Personal Finance for Dummies by Eric Tyson.

Avoiding the Con in Construction: How to Plan for Hassle-Free Home Building, Renovation, and Repair, by Kia Ricchi

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First time condo or home owner?  Avoiding the Con in Construction is written by a Florida based contractor who gives tips on planning, cost, and communicating with contractors on home projects.  I wish I had read this before we had renovated our kitchen since it would have helped us better work with our contractor.  If you are handy and looking to take care of repairs yourself consider, The Complete Photo Guide to Home Repair: With 350 Projects and Over 2,000 Photos or The Useful Book : 201 Life Skills They Used to Teach in Home Ec and Shop by David and Sharon Bowers.

121 First Dates: How to Succeed at Online Dating, Fall in Love, and Live Happily Ever After (Really!), by Wendy Newman

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Once you are out of high school and college, dating can seem a bit more intimidating.  Lots of people have gone online to find love (it’s how I met my husband).  Relationship coach Wendy Newman draws from her own experiences to give you tips on online dating advice on everything from profile pictures, from what to expect, advice for making your first meeting safe, and how to make your first date great.  You can also check out Love: The Psychology of Attraction by Leslie Becker-Phelps for a fun infographic and quiz-filled book that will help you find and improve your relationships.

How to Cook Everything The Basics: All You Need to Make Great Food, by Mark Bittman

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Bittman’s gives you the basics of cooking including everything from how to peel vegetables to how to hold a knife.  After reading the book you’ll understand the difference between roasting and broiling.  Helpful pictures illustrate the techniques and recipes.  You’ll also be given a list of recommended ingredients to have on hand and the cooking equipment any kitchen should have.  This could be the year you host Christmas!  Also check out Simply Scratch: 120 Wholesome Homemade Recipes Made Easy by Laurie McNamara.  Now that you’ve got cooking learn how to behave with Table Manners: How to Behave in the Modern World and Why Bother by Jeremiah Tower which looks at everything from RSVPs to iPhones at the table.

Adulting: How to Become a Grown-Up in 468 Easy(ish) Steps, by Kelly Williams Brown  

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Finally if you are looking for something all-encompassing for your exploration of adulthood, this funny but informative book attempts to cover all the basics of being a grown-up from home care, autocare, getting a job, saving money, and more.  The guide may even soon become a TV series!

-Written by Aimee Harris, Head of Reference

Documentaries to Check Out in Honor of Transgender Day of Remembrance

2 Dec

Transgender Day of Remembrance, occurs each year on November 20.  It is a day to memorialize those who have been murdered as a result of transphobia and to bring attention to the continued violence frequently directed toward the transgender community.  It was started by transgender advocate Gwendolyn Ann Smith as a vigil to honor the memory of Rita Hester, a transgender woman who was killed in 1998.  Rita was a part of the transgender community in Boston where she worked toward education around transgender issues.

Because of this day, the week from the November 14-20 is considered Transgender Awareness Week by GLAAD and other organizations and some groups also celebrate the whole month of November as Transgender Awareness Month.  Below are documentaries Hoboken and other BCCLS patrons can check out any time from Hoopla!

What’s the T?

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The T in LGBT stands for transgender and the award winning documentary, What’s the T? looks at the lives of five women whose lives began as boys.  They are a diverse group including an actress, a student, a dancer, an activist, and a nurse.  The film was shown at numerous film festivals and was praised for capturing the compelling lives of its subjects.

Growing Up Trans

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The PBS documentary Growing Up Trans looks at transgender children and their families who are exploring what it means to grow up being transgender.  It includes an interesting look at how medical advances are allowing them to make the transition before puberty and how this impacts their lives.

Out Late

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On the other side of the age spectrum the documentary Out Late features five people who came out as lesbian, gay, or transgender, after the age of 55. LeAnna, who served in the military as a man, became a woman at age 60.  The documentary looks at why they chose to come out later in life and what being out meant to them.  Those featured come from a diverse cross section of North America including Canada, Florida, and Kansas.

I Am the Queen

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In the Humboldt Park neighborhood in Chicago, the Vida/Sida Cacica Pageant brings together the Puerto Rican community to celebrate its transgender participants. I Am the Queen follows Bianca, Julissa and Jolizza as they prepare for the pageant. The women share stories of their transition, their relatives’ reactions, and how they find support in the community.

Do you have other documentaries or transgender resources to recommend?  Let us know in our comment section!

-Written by Aimee Harris, Head of Reference

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